8 Things to Do When You Feel Tired Of Living Daily Life By Yourself.
We all from time to time feel tired of living daily life. But the reason for it and the solution will be different for everyone.
In this article, I want to talk about living alone in your golden years and be tired of life.
What do you do when you tried to live, tired to live alone?
You know you have some goals, but you find yourself tired of doing it all by yourself.
It’s like all this opportunity, all these to look and learn, to participate in, but you are tired and bored with life. And it keeps happening and you don’t know what to do about that.
Well, first don’t hate yourself for that. Believe it or not, everybody gets bored and tired of daily life sometimes. And the good news is, it’s fixable.
Is it okay to be tired of living daily life?
It’s pretty normal to get tired of life. Most people don’t openly accept this part of their life, some feel like they’re the only ones who are going through a constant low. If you’ve been feeling tired of life, there’s nothing to worry about.
Maybe it’s because you work too much, have no free time, and have no work-life balance. Maybe it’s because you’re having relationship troubles. Or maybe it’s because you’re simply not satisfied with where you are at this stage of your life.
I am 55 and living alone for the past 15 years. Sometimes I find it very hard and want someone to lean on, but I love my life and find it excited. However, my mom (81 years) and her friends are a different story. Living alone with chronic illness and with low energy levels is a different story.
My mom is literally tired of living daily life by herself. She is not suicidal or depressed, just tired of grocery shopping, paying bills, cooking, cleaning, and even seeing and talking to her friends.
“This feeling is nothing new to me, I’ve felt it a million times before, but today the feeling was 10x stronger. I woke up, didn’t really have much to do, I sat down on the balcony and stared at a huge tree right in front of my apartment. I sat there, staring at the tree, without moving for like 20 seconds, and then I thought to myself “I’m really fucking tired of this shit”. Is anybody has been feeling more tired of life than they normally do? “
When you feel like carp, don’t pretend that it’s a mystery. Felling you have when you are in a funk, sad, bored, or tired of living. STOP PRETENDING that this filling just took over your body.
What I learned, there are three reasons that are usually responsible when you feel tired and like crap.
CAUSE #1 FATIGUE.
You didn’t sleep well, you didn’t eat well, and now it’s catching up with you.
CAUSE #2 REACTION.
Maybe somebody was rude to you recently. Maybe you are reacting to some news you received. Maybe you had a negative thought this morning. So, ask “What am I reacting to?”. Sometimes overwhelm and embarrassment creates a reaction – STRESS.
“Why does it has to happen to me?”
CAUSE #3 RUMINATION.
It means you get on a topic in your brain, and you keep spinning it over and over again. Usually on a negative circumstance, on negative results, negative emotions, negative filling, negative interaction, and you are running on that thing over and over again.
What do you do when you are tired of living your daily life?
You are in control of your life. If you are tired of living daily life by yourself, you have control to change it.
Here are the steps that will help.
1. Consume Something Positive
Interrupt negative thoughts by listening to a positive, motivational podcast or watch positive YouTube shows. My favorites are Brendon.com, Benita Larsson, This Is Our Retirement, and Nicolas Fairford. You may hear new ideas that will break your thought process and rumination.
Not sure how to not let things bother you? Replace your negative thoughts with something different. Read/listen to audiobooks, memorize your favorite poetry or great quotes. The key is don’t dwell on things you cannot change.
This is an ongoing effort for me that I wish I had learned when I was much younger.
2. Celebrate What Have You Have Done.
At the end of the day take a moment and think, “What did I do today?“.
What one step I can have a little bit of celebration about. At least you tried to move the thing forward.
Give yourself a little credit today.
Your self-talks about meaning and fulfillment is the best practice.
It can be you made a healthy lunch, you moved items in the house to make it more to your liking, you were kind to a stranger, you made that call, you answered that text.
Fulfillment in life comes with our THOUGHTS and ACKNOWLEDGEMENT of what we are doing and where we are heading. It’s a recognition and appreciation of what our life is about. Who are we becoming?
3. Have A Schedule And A Plan
Create a goal in your life. For me it’s a trip to Toronto once a month, learning a new skill, connecting with a friend regularly.
I schedule it on my calendar. If you look at my calendar you will see what my goals are and what I am working toward. It makes my days meaningful, gives me energy, fulfillment, and self-respect.
Self-respect gives us confidence and wellness. When you have confidence and self-worth from progressing toward things that matter to YOU are better.
4. Starting the Day Without Intention
In the morning think about your day. The worst thing you can do is just tumble into the day. Just literally start the day with no intention.
Think about the major thing that has to happen that day. Walk yourself mentally through the day. How can you enjoy the day?
Sprinkle little moments of delight throughout your day. Always have something to look forward to.
Also, give yourself the challenge to stay present and engaged during the day. It’s super hard, so start with the specific task that you liked before and just force yourself to be present and engaged with it.
If you are washing the dishes, feel the dish. Challenge yourself to be present in that moment. Not thinking about the past or future but be present in the moment.
BE IN THE MOMENT.
5. Go Outside of Yourself
Ask your friend, sibling, or parent what their goal is and spend a week helping THEM to achieve it. If you are completely alone then try to find a volunteering opportunity.
And doing that will re-energize your spirit.
Go to new places, try new food, or go to different parts of town.
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6. Start A Learning Journey
Ask yourself what I would like to learn about this part of the word, or this skill set, or business idea. And instead of going to the television go to the bookstore or library and get some books.
If you are not a reader, find some podcasts that you can listen to or watch videos on YouTube that are geared toward your development.
Re-engage your learning.
7. Share Your Fillings with a Friend
Show your vulnerability. If you feel tired of living for more than 3 days, tell somebody that.
You tried to eat right, sleep, did meditation, and exercise and still not filling it. It means that you lost a sense of present and connection with life. And sometimes to get back connection with life is through someone that cares about you.
Go do something with somebody that you like.
It’s so basic.
Just say “I am in a funk don’t know what to do. Do you want to hang out?”.
If you get around positive people more often, that will change the game for you.
The world is full of sadness because we separated ourselves.
8. Know That You Have Choices
“You have a choice. You need to realize that you have a choice in everything. You have a choice to whether allow yourself to feed into the sad and depressing situation you are in or to close your eyes and try to go back to sleep whenever you’d wake up at 3 am.
You have a choice to either get up and do your daily routine or just stay in bed the entire day and be consumed by disappointment and heartbreak.
You have a choice to still continue to be a hot mess or to love yourself regardless.”
So, whatever you’re feeling right now, I encourage you to please choose the latter. Choose to be optimistic and positive about the things that are happening to you.
Remember that pain is temporary.
What To Say to Someone Who Is Tired of Life?
Something along the lines of I’ll always be here for you even if I don’t know how to help you in that situation.
Tell them you are there for them if they need to talk and vent. Try not to be too pushy to help since if they really wanted to talk, they would.
Just listen.
90% of the time it’s about them finding the words/courage to say what/how they feel to another person and knowing they are not alone.
Sometimes a hug can say the most!
You will be okay. You will be fine. Believe in yourself.
It’s ok to be down. Take your time but not for too long. Cry if you have to. But get back up on your feet because you have to try again.
You have to keep moving forward.
Someone somewhere out there knows exactly what you are going through.
Keep going, dear friend. Believe that you can get through this day.
As always, I’d love to hear from you! Have a fabulous week and take care! Irina Nikitina – Founder of Modern Fifty TV
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